THE HUGE TEXT MISTAKE THOUSANDS OF MEN MAKE THAT KILLS A WOMAN'S ATTRACTION TO THEM
- Aussie dating expert Louanne Ward reveals how women instantly turn off men
- Plus the seven second dating dilemma plaguing potential couples
Australia's leading dating expert Louanne Ward has issued a stark warning to single men across the country, revealing many are accidentally destroying attraction with one simple texting habit.
The Perth-based matchmaker, who regularly shares her no-nonsense relationship advice online, warns that this one habit will shut down a woman's interest, even after a promising first or second date.
According to Louanne, the downfall often begins right after things seem to be going well.
'You had chemistry on the first date, [but] then you started texting her like she was already your girlfriend.'
She explained that the problem starts when a man slips into boyfriend mode far too early by sending morning greetings, constant updates and never-ending check-ins.
She highlighted the typical pattern with messages like 'Good morning beautiful', 'How's your day going?', 'What are you doing tonight?' as well as travel and weather updates that arrive daily, are a big ick.
While men often believe this shows affection and consistency, the effect, apparently, is the exact opposite.
Instead of feeling flattered, Louanne said many women feel the spark begin to fade due to the 'mundane reality of being in a long-term relationship' with the potential suitor.
What follows isn't excitement, it's boredom as women aren't looking for a play-by-play of a man's day.
Women crave 'space to wonder about you' and 'time to miss you between dates',' explained, adding that 'the romance comes from not knowing everything about someone yet.'
When a man floods that space with constant contact, she says they unintentionally replace the excitement of early dating with the monotony of long-term routine.
For men, this level of communication and sharing daily routines feels comforting and genuine, but Louanne stresses that what may feel like connection for him, feels more like pressure for her.
Louanne also highlighted that this type of communication can be particularly triggering or off-putting for women who have already lived through long-term relationships or marriages.
Women who've been divorced, she explained, have already spent years navigating daily domestic routines. So when a man they've only seen a few times begins acting like a committed partner, the result is an immediate emotional shutdown. '
'When you text like you're five years in, you rob her of the entire early romance. You show her the boring end before she's even finished enjoying the exciting beginning.'
'Premature familiarity isn't comfortable, it's claustrophobic.'
For men pondering what move to make next after hearing her brutal feedback, the answer is simple – create space.
'Let her wonder [and] let the attraction build naturally. Because attraction needs room to breathe.'
Anyone who's dipped a toe into modern dating knows women aren't easily impressed - and science backs it, revealing they need only seven seconds to judge whether a man is worth their time.
Thin slicing, a concept grounded in neuroscience, explains how a woman can size up a man's dating potential in a matter of seconds, with her brain making the call almost instantly.
'Her brain is scanning for very specific things: leadership, safety, confidence, and emotional stability,' she said.
These four qualities, apparently, are hardwired into the female brain as essential cues for long-term compatibility, particularly when it comes to evolutionary biology and reproduction.
In the dating world, Louanne said this shows up the moment a man walks in the door or introduces himself.
'She's picking up on your non-verbal cues.
'That includes your posture, your movement, your facial expression, your pace, your tone of voice, even your style.'
Even something as simple as saying your name can trigger an instant response.
'The pitch, tone and weight of your voice gets processed as a signal,' she explained.
Women naturally assess if a man's voice is calm or anxious, clear or uncertain, and grounded or reactive.
According to the 'science' Louanne refers to, these subtle details trigger emotional responses in a woman's body where she might feel attraction, curiosity, indifference, or a quiet, unshakable no.
Unfortunately for men, once her brain has decided, there's often no going back.
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